It's not a to know what you want
*Flamers: Don't waste your time. I'll delete and most certainly won't reply* I am a highly-educated, complex woman who identifies herself as BBW/SSBBW. If this is not something that truly attracts you; don't waste either of our time. If I take the time to make it clear that this is my body type; then you ought not to write to me. That seems idiotic. I am interested in something specific, so again, if you don't see yourself in what I describe, feel free to move on. :) I don't want a mindless fling. I am interested in a deeply satisfying, multi-dimensional, sensual relationship that has its roots in respect, trust, and a desire for a deep connection. The difference is: I don't see myself looking for a long-term relationship at this time; I also don't think is the place to seek that, so I am being realistic. I envision a relationship that encompasses communication, a genuine enjoyment of one another's company, in and out of "the bedroom," but that does not include any expectations or intentions of trying to force it into a real-time relationship. If you are sleeping around, have multiple partners, or are not someone who genuinely respects and values a quality woman; you're not the guy. People with personal contact, intimacy and closeness to another person. I am interested in that level of involvement without forcing the direction of the relationship. My time is limited, so I am interested in quality. I am an attractive natural redhead (yes, natural), who enjoys sensual massage, endless kissing and touching and a commitment to mutual satisfaction. I am not inhibited. So, I am willing to explore other facets of my sexuality. You should be too :) My ideal responder would be: intelligent, articulate, sensual, have a quick wit: someone who truly wants intimacy and sharing, not a mindless fling or a "booty ." A relative age range could be 30's-40's. I prefer Caucasian, Native American, Pacific Islanders: taller men who are not hairy (bears need not apply), minimal facial hair, and who keep well-groomed private regions. If you aren't familiar with "manscaping," then you're probably not for me. Since we're talking about an relationship here; I think it's fair to mention that, while I don't expect you local older ladies searching casual encounter top online dating sites to have the endowments of a porn star, it's safe to say that I would prefer someone who is at least of a decent size. I am a fanatic about hygiene, great and men who know how to groom themselves like a gentleman, not a slacker. Being a non-smoker is a must. This includes smokeless tobacco. It should go unsaid that being and disease free is a given; but let me emphasize it here. I am not interested someone who is trying to escape from a sexless relationship or who is interested in multiple partners. I am interested in someone who sees the value of a satisfying relationship and is mature enough to nurture that. The ideal person would be professionally or gainfully employed, who desires a sensual/sexual relationship that has substance; but perhaps doesn't have the time or interest in a LTR at this time. This means that, for all intents and purposes, I'm speaking of a sexually monogamous relationship; where notice is respectfully given if either party enters into another relationship. The ideal responder would be someone who has few sexual taboos, is very secure in his masculinity, to the point that exploration is a plus, not a turn off. Yes, it's a specific list. But why not? If "he" is out there, it was worth the effort to spell it out; and will be all the more enjoyable if it's found. Random but probably worth mentioning, cat or dog would be a problem, so save yourself the . :) Reply with "Explore" in the subject line.